So many moms out there fall into the stereotypical mother role of taking care of everyone else but themselves. They become more and more disconnected to their own needs that they eventually begin to face some sort of ailment or dis-ease. Emotionally drained, they tend to take on other's emotions but feel lost as to what their own emotional needs are. In addition, they feel guilty if they did express their needs so instead stay quiet. My own mother is a case in point, and it took her life.
I lost my mom to a year-long battle with stomach cancer this past February (2020), and my speaking up on this topic of moms understanding how to better take care of themselves is one of urgency. Every day is a new day to change, to grow, to heal, and to see things differently. Every day is a new opportunity to make a difference in your own life! Mothers deserve and should give themselves permission, once and for all, to be a joyful member of the family who knows how to receive love and is able to live in a healthy body, mind, and spirit. Belief systems like, "I don't have anything special and it's too late for me anyway so I will pour my energy into my children," or "I'm a mother, and mother's don't deserve to have fun - they are supposed to make sure everyone else is having fun - that's a mother's job!" or "A mother's job is to worry about her kids," or "A good mother is supposed to be perfect," or "I'm a bad mother if I don't run myself ragged for my kids' happiness," are exactly that - Belief Systems! We inherited them from our ancestors, and most likely our own moms! Can we make it a priority to stop the pattern and become the change we wish to see for our own daughters? Can we learn to live with more self-respect, self-love, and self-care? Can we show our daughters that becoming a mom does not mean that we lose ourselves? Can we become the balanced person who still has a pep in her step and enjoys life to the fullest? YES, WE CAN!
I say that very enthusiastically because I have seen my female patients who are mothers wake up to this new life. I experience this transformation with mothers as I work with them, changing their belief systems, clearing emotions, and releasing their root causes of stress. I love seeing mothers become more balanced, joyful, and peaceful, and because of this become BETTER mothers because they have more to give! So all of you Mothers out there, Happy Mother's Day and I wish you even more joy than you experienced last year, and that each year you continue to increase in your ability to experience joy and fulfillment.
With love and light,